The Future of Love
Posted on May 17th, 2008
by 
Kundan
Kundan
Sometimes, the words in a book have a deeper meaning for me when I come back to it years later, as I myself have grown.
This is how I felt when I read the following words on a beautiful Sunday afternoon at the Vege Grill from The Future of Love by Daphne Rose Kingma:
"The soul keeps carrying us to love. At the soul level, the pain we feel about all the ruptures in our relationships isn't the pain of injustice or incomplete revenge: it is the pain of wanting to love and having that impulse cut off, cut short. It is the pain of having the longing to love with no place to put it, no one to deliver it to, no form, no vehicle for its expression."
I was like, "Oh my God! That is so true! It's like we've focused so much of our love and energy on this one person that when she is gone, it seems, for a moment, that there is nowhere else to place that love. This is why I am so glad I now have a large support network of people, family, friends, intimate friends, mentors, colleagues, partners, fellow light-workers, trees, flowers, chairs, tables, paper, concrete, myself, birds, postcards, pictures, paintings, videos, movies, art, mandalas, books, writers, poets, artists, candles, aumies, bahais, singers, song-writers, musicians and much more to love."
In other words, I am soooooooooo glad I had that direct experience of truth in which I knew myself to be Love itself - the complete, total recognition, an absolute knowing, that I am Love. Not theoretical, but truly.
Which gets me to the very next paragraph in the book:
"The personality draws a small circle, and from within its self-focused circumference, keeps trying to have all its needs met, becoming frustrated and self-righteous when they're not. The soul, however draws a huge circle that includes everything and everyone, a circle with a circumference so huge that it embraces all opposites. The personality blames, judges, tosses aside, casts out, and plays the victim, while the soul says, "There is a bigger agenda here, a larger frame, an infinitely more complex picture. Stand back and behold it all. See how every one of the pieces fit." "
This is how I felt when I read the following words on a beautiful Sunday afternoon at the Vege Grill from The Future of Love by Daphne Rose Kingma:
"The soul keeps carrying us to love. At the soul level, the pain we feel about all the ruptures in our relationships isn't the pain of injustice or incomplete revenge: it is the pain of wanting to love and having that impulse cut off, cut short. It is the pain of having the longing to love with no place to put it, no one to deliver it to, no form, no vehicle for its expression."
I was like, "Oh my God! That is so true! It's like we've focused so much of our love and energy on this one person that when she is gone, it seems, for a moment, that there is nowhere else to place that love. This is why I am so glad I now have a large support network of people, family, friends, intimate friends, mentors, colleagues, partners, fellow light-workers, trees, flowers, chairs, tables, paper, concrete, myself, birds, postcards, pictures, paintings, videos, movies, art, mandalas, books, writers, poets, artists, candles, aumies, bahais, singers, song-writers, musicians and much more to love."
In other words, I am soooooooooo glad I had that direct experience of truth in which I knew myself to be Love itself - the complete, total recognition, an absolute knowing, that I am Love. Not theoretical, but truly.
Which gets me to the very next paragraph in the book:
"The personality draws a small circle, and from within its self-focused circumference, keeps trying to have all its needs met, becoming frustrated and self-righteous when they're not. The soul, however draws a huge circle that includes everything and everyone, a circle with a circumference so huge that it embraces all opposites. The personality blames, judges, tosses aside, casts out, and plays the victim, while the soul says, "There is a bigger agenda here, a larger frame, an infinitely more complex picture. Stand back and behold it all. See how every one of the pieces fit." "
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July 2008 
You told me about this book over a year ago, and I bought it…. Love(d) it! Thanks for the reminder, sharing her words of wisdom…. superb timing for me to revisit them too! :-) Stacy
That's great, Stacy!
i so agree with the truth in this.
I say when you get hurt or when your heart breaks and you feel 'lost' or 'broken' what do you do? just love more.. give more, love more until your heart breaks completely wide open.