True Monogamy: MonoAmory by Choice

There are 2 aspects to this -

1. Many people are polyamourous by definition of the word because they tend to have deep bonded relationships with people other than their partners/spouses. This class of people do not indulge in guiltfreesex with their non partners tho.

2. The second class of polyamourous people have moved on from being possessive and sexually jealous about their partners and are secure enough about their inherent love for each other to allow themselves and their partners to explore aspects of themselves that cannot be explored in a monoamourous relationship.

This class of people, DOES have guiltfreesex with people they love who are not their partners and they are open/authentic/trusting enough of themselves and their partners to not become insecure about themselves or their current relationship. They tend to also have stronger bonds because their relationship allows themselves the FREEDOM to explore themselves without repurcussions :)

People who are monoamourous by choice inspite of the FREEDOM to explore new frontiers are the only true monogamous folk. Such folk have likely explored this aspect in reality in some depth (not just in thought) but decided they preferred monoamory.

Monoamorous people who are afraid to explore themselves or allow their partners to do so come from a space of insecurity and lack. This is not monoamory, it is more likely a marriage of 2 unhappy joyless individuals denying themselves the opportunity of authenticity.

Since "sex" and its associated connotations is a point of contention for many, many polyamorous relationships remain shy of indulging the physical aspect of the relationship.

Lastly, how is it possible to NOT love many people without rejecting your infinite capacity of love?

by Sougat Garai